Everyone who was born into the family throughout the generations has an equal right to belong to it even if they are no longer in the family (due to death, abortions, giving up for adoption, etc.). Everything is preserved, even secrets that were seemingly repressed and forgotten. All of these will continue to exist in the collective subconscious of the system until one of the offspring unconsciously adopts some role related to their balance.
Who came before whom chronologically? The parents before the children, the eldest before the youngest, the first wife before the second wife, the old employee before the new employee. The one who comes first has the ability and resources to support and allow the one who comes later to succeed. When the order of priorities in the system goes wrong - chaos is created. Restoring order calms down the system.
I came to the session out of deep pain and frustration. I went through several repeated miscarriages, and each time I felt that my dream of becoming a mother was shattered. I tried many different treatments, but nothing worked. The session was a deep and moving experience. I felt for the first time that I understood the source of my problem, the guilt and shame that accompanies me. Shlomit's guidance was professional and sensitive and allowed me to dedicate myself to the process. I hope that the next pregnancy will end well.
I highly recommend anyone suffering from a serious medical problem to try a family constellation session. This can be a very effective way to understand the source of the problem and find new ways to deal with it.
"I suffered from severe Crohn's disease and felt that I had lost hope. After trying many treatments without success, I decided to try a family constellation. Thanks to the session with Shlomit, I understood the connection between my disease and deep family experiences. The process was shocking, but gave me new hope and significant relief from symptoms. Don't know if it's good for everyone, for me - it worked and I highly recommend the family constellation method."